As I am known to rant I will be honest in saying at the moment what I really would say is let them _______ eat cake, dammit! This is a work in progress so if interested revisit it. Apologies for repeated ideas, I have a tendency to go in once i’ve written something and add things even though I may have already mentioned it elsewhere.
I do my best to keep my mouth shut these days but I get so tired of all the shit and shoulds being laid on the young folks (and old). And you know what, I’ve done enough of trying to make sure to explain so well or to not offend anyone but I just need to be me and realize that even if one sentence triggers insight then great because I am doing it for them and if it helps in any way for others to treat them with more appreciation and respect then Yahooznik! They are leading us out of the shit whether people can see it or not and I will always trust in and support them.
Please note that I know that not every adult thinks or treats young folks the way I am sharing. And I also know that I am not an expert on anyone. My focus has always been to support all to know for their own being vs get overwhelmed by all the opinions out there that are usually based on what one believes or works for them.
Many of you may not know that I’ve spent my life advocating for the Earth and its life, humans included, (although at one point I didn’t care for them too much in watching how many were treating other life and then in watching how many treat the children and youth). My background is in environmental and peace activism, ecology, permaculture, wellness/self help, regaining one’s own knowing, wellness, freedom, supporting the young loves, supporting humans to realize and live their joys, their best selves, and more. I only share these parts so that when I speak about technology and the young folks, for example, people don’t just think I am full of ____.
It is the children who helped me to realize how so much of our existence had/has become “this is good. this is bad”…, so much negative energy/vibration with judgement, rigid mindsets and obsession surrounding just about any issue one can imagine and so much shit/shoulds/havetos…given. I am a seeker of truth, and that and love & joy, wellness & freedom for all life is what I care about including the freedom for all to live lives on their own terms. As well I have learned how to sense deeper truths for myself and supported many children and youth and watched and sensed the truth about the many things adults are saying are bad for them or all or the like.
The children come in already tuned in and tuned to all life even if adults don’t think they are. But they also appreciate human creativity and offerings. They don’t need to be taught to appreciate “the natural world” just because they don’t constantly want to be outside, talk about or stare at it or do the things that some think one must do to be connected with it or that some just love doing. I understand that it might appear they don’t care or feel it but they do and I think us environmentalists and the like had or have forgotten how animals and plants live, nest etc, that everything that exists is of the earth and universe, and more. Again I am not suggesting that we make more nuclear bombs or anything life destroying but many human creations are actually very useful and fun. As well, the young folks are naturally thoughtful, loving and more even if they don’t constantly say so unless they have been or are stressed in one way or many including if they have been forced to not be who they are or to always do as others tell them etc etc. They are trying to help us to realize we are here to have fun not suffer, fuss, fight, obsess, live so intensely or seriously, or other even though many of them do get a kick out of pretend battles and more.
Too many assumptions about them and what they are doing to mention. I used to really speak up and out for them but then I got tired of the fact that many didn’t seem to get it or care to listen. And probably I wasn’t being clear or doing a good job at sharing in ways that could be heard.
Listen, if they were doing what they are doing with paper books, board games, sports or musical instruments, as examples, they’d be fully praised, called bookworms or other (and yet maybe criticized for trees being cut down for books…). Instead they have to deal with the constant thoughts, lectures and pressure to not just freely do the things they enjoy or need and in the ways they want to because of the many who are set on the idea that technology, screens, video games, wifi, EMFs, 4 or 5G,… are bad for them and that they are sucked into “the matrix”, and on the idea that just being or resting is lazy and more. All of which also puts and pushes them down. Not to mention wanting them to do and live the way and lives that others think are the way and that their parents have chosen. And not to mention that the collective’s vibration, currently and for a while now, has not been so fun to be near or out in although some do just fine in it.
Meanwhile, as an example, many adults use the same tools for similar things such as looking things up that they are curious about or enjoying online networking, connecting, entertainment, stories, games or the like.
Many do not trust their instincts or other and just assume they are doing things they shouldn’t or are vulnerable to abuse etc. And even if all they are doing is having fun and in whatever ways feel fun and good to them that is not wrong. To some having fun has become a wrong. And I am just tired of it. They are not stupid nor stuck in a matrix…
And what is it folks would prefer for them- to not enjoy life or be stressed or depressed? I don’t think so but there is definitely an underlying and obvious belief for some that life needs to be a certain way, one must act a certain way, live a certain way, eat a certain way, and more.
I really do understand that folks just want the best for them. But if the children show signs of issues it is usually tied up in many other things including how it feels to have others decide your life, how it feels to be around others thinking or worrying that what they are doing is bad for them, including living on a planet where many humans are overthinking and obsessing, living stressful lives and/or living balls of negative vibrations. They also are good reflectors helping us to get over our worries, doubts, fears, rigid mindsets and beliefs, boundary issues, etc so what they present is often not about them and often appears to be exactly what we have fears about so again one must relearn how to sense the true depth of things.
Plants, animals, rocks, etc don’t live like that. They spend most of their time just being, resting, and cozied up. But when young folks do such many around them want them to do something else, call them lazy or addicts etc and whether they say it, force it, or not, can you imagine how that feels to have others always wanting you to do something you are not or wanting you to do something you do not want to do vs supporting your own knowing, needs, interests and Joys, which is exactly what makes humans thrive? Meanwhile many adults don’t know how to or feel comfortable resting or not doing enough or know who they are and how to live their joys. If someone sees them resting or having fun most feel they have to explain. All of this is based on newer ways of being, more stressful ways of being and considering others who don’t do so as lazy just as the Native Americans were called because they “worked” an average of 4hrs/day if spanned out over the year (if I’m remembering the numbers correctly and even if it is less. The truth is we don’t have to do anything as anyone has done. Follow our joys and we light up the world and beyond and those who do what they love can go for many hours a day if they want to…keep in mind that for some that is very active and for some it can appear they are doing nothing, but time just being is also important and again for one just being is many things for another it is just sitting. point is stop the shoulds, assumptions, etc), they each had their thing they did, they lived at slower pace, sat on the earth a lot resting and just being,…
As well as I already mentioned just because you as a parent choose a life full of constant chores and other doesn’t mean that is what works for your children or the life they would choose. We don’t all have to grow our own food and do everything ourselves but if one loves that then good for them. Each being has something or things they love to do and we can all share offerings if we want to, and even if they decide they want to be techies, pro-gamers, youtubers, game creators or the like, just to mention of few of the things that seem to be badly judged, if that is what they love to do then their vibration will be good for them and for all and they will do well.
All you have to do is ALLOW/support them to always do what makes them feel at ease, rested, good, joyful, excited to be and do such and they will be, do and feel well and know how to follow their instincts and dreams even if or as those change. Of course they will have some growing pains and discomfort, changes in energy etc as they grow and especially through bigger growing and hormonal stages but their spirits can still enjoy life if they are not squashed…not to be confused with the affects of hormones as all are so different some have more energy some much less than before… And it is important to understand that things that manifest on a physical level usually start on the energetic level which on that level can be easily cleared and shifted as we tune in to understand what we might be doing that is out of alignment for us and them since they are at the age where they can be affected by our choices and ways or again might be reflecting…
Anyways, these beings come in already tuned in, already knowing themselves, what they need, what they enjoy and love, and many are treated as though they are empty vessels needing to be filled, constantly guided and micromanaged– not much space for their minds and beings to feel free and at ease which is where wellness comes from.
Slow down to take good care of yourself and to really hear and listen to them and allow them to listen to their own beings. Trust in all of our innate wellness and knowing. Please listen to them, trust them, even before they start to speak you can tune into such with them and they understand you.
Allow them to unfold and evolve naturally as they do if they are supported to. They each are unique and will talk when they want to, write, read, and everything when and as they want to without one lesson and without someone having them repeat things over and over. If they want or need help with something help in the way that they want you to and that works for them and again listen well.
And they don’t have to do everything in order to know or learn how to do it or in order to be independent or self-sustaining. It is ok to feed them and give them whatever extra support they need while they are navigating a body and this life not to mention the ton they are doing just by being here, whether it is apparent or not.
And this whole BS curriculum, testing and grading, forced to follow a schedule and ways not guided by their own inner needs and wants, etc is exactly BS and stressful not ease, peace and wellness promoting. A lot of the info forced upon them is not even relevant to their needs or interests or to the moment and yet if they are allowed to do and explore what they want when and how they want to they will have fun doing so and retain what they want because they are doing what interests them & feels right to them and even though knowing things is not the goal they will know more on the things that interest them than most adults. Not to mention that one interest involves many areas. At any time they want or need to know something about something they don’t they will because they know how to pursue their own. We are all connected to all knowledge and wisdom and how we connect or want to connect with it/to it is different for each person and each moment including just tuning in or tuning into a book, person or other and how about considering the network that the internet provides and trusting they will tune into what is right for them and pass up that which is not. From what I’ve seen they are so good at that whereas adults are the ones more overwhelmed by it all. Again I do not know for each being what is best or what beliefs, behaviors, stress, etc they’ve taken on. All of which can really weigh one down.
They already understand what you are saying and thinking, feeling. If you need to say something talk to them not about them. Respect and Honor them. Most of all be Loving, Calm, Gentle and Present with them and yourselves. Appreciate and Enjoy their Amazing Presence!!!! They are so fun and “creative” in their own ways when allowed to be who they are and to just be. Trust their own inner knowing. Let them have fun always and all-ways, unless they are hurting themselves or other there is so much to enjoy and they really know how to be present and do so, let them eat cake, ice cream, etc etc.
Realize how stressful it is when you force them to eat a certain amount or a certain way and that they may be absorbing what they need vibrationally. But if they are not doing well and need something then listen to them and allow them to listen to their beings that know. Take the time to listen within yourself so you can sense and support them well and make space for them to hear their own callings and needs in whatever way they need. Even your over-thinking can interfere with such. I am not talking about leaving them all alone. You will find that you will be great friends and they won’t feel the need to go away to feel good and at ease.
But when they do need physical space as well listen to them. For example during puberty they may just want and need a lot of time to themselves and you can still be home with them and do the things that help support them such as meals etc. Or whenever they are shifting fully into themselves separate from you.
And take good care of yourself, ground & calm yourself, follow your own inner needs and joys, dreams etc so that your vibration is pleasant to be around and doesn’t make them feel the need to vent/get intense energy out or other.
Realize they already sense the connection with all and so much more than you do and have their own thing going on so please don’t constantly interrupt them, and realize when they appear to interrupt you or others it is usually that you or others have actually interrupted them because whether it is apparent or not they always have something they are “doing”.
If needed relearn how to tune in yourself so that you can understand how to support them differently than many have thought is the way. And realize that if they are helping you get over fears, worries, doubts, guilt, shame and all other negative thinking and being so they may exhibit signs of stuff that have nothing to do with them. Reflection, reflection, reflection. And yet allow them to tune in and you tune in if their is something going on for them that needs attention. See them and their abilities to be Well with blueprints of 100% wellness etc with inner beings that know how to be well, what they need, etc. Realize how your worries and fears can affect them. And be gentle with and love yourselves too in the process. Guilt, shame, judgement of self and others, being hard on one self only hurts self and all (vibration, vibration, vibration). Just slow down what needs slowing down, find your ground and alignment, allow them the same, and all will be well and flow well and your Joy, Peace and Calm will help ALL!
Much Love to ALL!
PS. They are not only special if they play an instrument or other and there is no need to push them into anything. If they want such, if that is an inner calling and they feel free to be who they are and explore their interests, they will.
And if they are doing well within a regular school setting, as some do, let them know if they don’t already that there is no one better than another. Some do not do well under pressure or “on” too much, or with so many others, or following someone else’s idea for schedules, learning, etc not to mention all that some are going through at home or with what the world is going through.
Thank you!
Always Follow Your Joys, Callings & Dreams! and please allow the children & Youth & All life to do the same. Trust, Love, Be And Believe in Yourself, them and others! 